This time of the year is probably a great test of our ability to understand and apply the concept of ‘re-framing’. Here are a couple of examples to get us started and learn to apply so we may enjoy the benefits….and there are many more to ‘Re-Framing!’
I remember an occasion in my NLP (neuro-linguistic programme) training when a couple of us were invited to demonstrate this continuum. Neither of us anticipated what was being asked of us, but it was one of those moments for me that I felt caught in the headlights – a ‘BFO’ (blinding flash of the obvious!) that has stuck with me ever since.
‘Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations’ – so remember, it’s our attitude and behaviour to the journey that leads to an easier destination!
I was invited to take a post-it sticker and plant it as high up on the wall as I could – well that was what I heard, anyway….so I took a grand leap up into the air and stretched as high as I could to plant my sticker up towards the eaves of the building.
A colleague was then invited to do the same….she walked up and smacked the sticker on to the wall, with no dramatic leap or bound, just a modest stretch. I was blown away. Where was the effort it that?! Where was the ‘try hard’, the ‘be the best you can be?’…I was shocked. And there it was: she did a perfectly good job; she was grounded, she did as she was asked and the sticker was a reasonable height up on the wall. She did it with ease.
Judgment! I was right in there…and this was such a great illustration for me about ‘challenge’ vs. ‘ease.’ How often do we fall into this trap? It is helpful to think about when and where ‘challenge’ or ‘ease’ is the most appropriate. How about conserving some energy for the things that are more deserving by tackling them with a sense of ease? How do we decide which situation requires and deserves an attitude or behaviour of ‘challenge’ vs. one of ‘ease’? Worth a thought, don’t you think?
Minds that are ill at ease are agitated by hope and fear. Ovid (Ancient Roman Poet)
Being at ease with not knowing is crucial for answers to come to you. – Eckhart Tolle.
Have you ever tried to draw the ‘perfect’ circle? It’s impossible! And how many other things are you ‘trying’ to perfect, when ‘excellence’ is all that is required?
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. – Aristotle
Consider this as we approach the run up to Christmas and all that it brings with it. With 17 days to go, and only 11 of those being work-days, what exactly is deserving of your excellence? This means looking at your allocation of time, energy, money – and in particular, you attitude and behaviour. Pick and choose what you do with ease and excellence and enjoy the difference this brings. Notice how it can reduce your stress which is so often brought on by the demands ofchallenge and perfection.
Striving for excellence feels wonderful because you’re trying your very best.
Perfectionism feels terrible because you somehow feel your work is never quite good enough. – Marcia McKay
When we find ourselves continually walking the high-wire and wonder which way is up in either our personal and/or our professional lives it’s great to have a helping hand for support.
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